Hello Dear One!
If the experience of trying to lose weight has felt laborious in and of itself – these few tips might offer great assistance.
The mental game of weight loss is often far harder than simply following instruction and waiting.
Here are some places to put your attention and effort to create a more favorable outcome as well as a calmer countenance while change is happening.
1. FOCUS ON BEHAVIORS
This is what we DO in Fat Burning (PRO and Mastery).
There are 5 things that create weight loss, and 5 ways to assess whether change is happening – and that’s where we focus.
If we have a belief that these steps produce change, and all we need to do is to do them – then it’s easier to have your energy taken up with activities that actually produce change, vs be in wonder/anxiety/doubt that they won’t.
I’ll occasionally check in with my Fat Burners to see if clothes are fitting differently or if the number on the scale has changed at all.
But in reality those data points don’t CREATE change – they can simply be an indication of it (sometimes not always, as I’m having increasing faith in PHOTOS. If you’re on this journey – take one at the start, or take one NOW.)
Also by focusing on behaviors we have an opportunity to feel successful every day – not just when we’ve hit our goal weight/etc.
So focus on what REALLY will move the dial = BEHAVIORS!
And DIET most of all.
(check out Fat Burning PRO and Mastery for a program that handles that PLUS the other 4 main factors in weight loss.)
2. THIS TAKES TIME
As distorting of time as TRYING HARD can be – it still won’t make change happen quicker.
When we’re really focused on what we’re doing and what we want to have happen it can feel like we’ve been at something FAR longer than we really have.
There’s also a lag time between our behaviors and their effects making an impact on our bodies.
Which can be disorienting and feel frustrating.
Just know that weight loss not only takes a bit of time to happen (healthy loss rate = 1-2 lbs/week), but that there’s always a delay in your actions and your results.
3. SCALE WEIGHT FLUCTUATIONS
I actually don’t encourage people to use the scale much at all.
IF you’re really inclined I think once a week under the same circumstances (clothes, eating/drinking, time of day) is best.
We not only fluctuate daily, but even with weight loss the scale will go down and UP and down.
What you want to watch most is the direction it’s trending in.
DOWN is the desire, but daily ups are also par for the course.
4. GOAL CLOTHES
Don’t try on your skinny jeans, or beloved garments that you can’t wait to get into with a few extra pounds off your frame EARLY in your efforts.
Let some time pass before you take a crack at them (refer to item #2) so that you feel ENCOURAGED by all the potential change that has been able to transpire.
And in the meantime wear clothes that are COMFORTABLE.
While stretchy clothes are harder to assess change with – if they’re going to make you feel more “right” in clothes that aren’t TIGHT – wear THEM.
5. SLEEP & STRESS
The more sleep and the earlier to bed, the better,
Human Growth Hormone (helps with weight loss) gets released when we sleep, and the earlier to bed we get and the longer we sleep – the more we get of it.
Getting to bed (ideally) by 9pm, and having 7+ hours will help your hormonal balance exponentially in this effort.
And if you’re freaking out about what you think IS NOT happening – you are totally working against your efforts.
Stress activates cortisol which will keep you in a sugar burning mode, reduce your metabolism, and make you HUNGRY.
So if/when in doubt – look at your efforts, do RESEARCH on how what you’re doing DOES work (that’s what I’ve done when in doubt), and make a point to CHILL OUT.
6. LESS IS MORE
If/WHEN we DO deviate from the intended plan – remember that less is always more.
Often people want to abandon ship and declare that they’re OFF THE WAGON when they’ve colored slightly outside of the lines.
This is SO RIDICULOUS.
PLUS if you know that, then it might give you an opportunity to be CONSCIOUS when having bread/dessert/cocktails on a non carb feast night.
7. IT’S GOTTA WORK FOR YOU
Finally with any new approach to diet and lifestyle – it HAS to be good for you/
It HAS to have a multitude of benefits beyond the fact that it’ll get you into that gorgeous gown for the event or back into your favorite blazer.
And if we look for all the ways it adds to our life it will feel like a PLEASURE to keep up with supportive habits vs like they’re only a sacrifice or source of deprivation.
If you’d like to check out a program that aims to add more than an ounce of understanding and calmness into the process of weight loss, please check out Fat Burning PRO (self study with support), or Fat Burning Mastery (LOADS of one on one attention).
To getting you clearer on how the body works, and how to make it work for you.
xox, M